Happy Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day

Because today is as good a day as any to have love and goodness in the world, be you in the throes of true love, or preaching against the Hallmark marketing ploy, or being an angsty cynic and negating the pink hearts and sappy messages, I wish everyone the world lots of love and goodness on this Valentine’s day!

❤ DragonBeck


How to Seduce a Writer

HWThis is not my original thought or suggestion, I’m just passing it on because I like it and it’s particularly apropos for today.


While I’m certain all writers are different, just as all people are different, and perhaps grouping them together based on a single quality and saying “these people are such and such, and so and so” is not a practical way to go about dealing with the multitude of people on this strange little planet we call home, there is something to be said for the feeling of commiseration and solidarity when someone expresses the exact way you feel or think. The moment of “hallelujah, I’m not alone!” can be like a  the weight of a neutron star lifting from the visceral regions, even if it’s just for a brief moment.

So, though I cannot speak for all writers, just the ones in Mr. Neil Gaiman’s experience, for me this is a particularity brilliant piece of advice from a writer, seconded by this writer (who does tend to be really good at the inside of her own head):

In my experience, writers tend to be really good at the inside of their own heads and imaginary people, and a lot less good at the stuff going on outside, which means that quite often if you flirt with us we will completely fail to notice, leaving everybody involved slightly uncomfortable and more than slightly unlaid.

“So I would suggest that any attempted seduction of a writer would probably go a great deal easier for all parties if you sent them a cheerful note saying ‘YOU ARE INVITED TO A SEDUCTION: Please come to dinner on Friday Night. Wear the kind of clothes you would like to be seduced in.’

“And alcohol may help, too. Or kissing. Many writers figure out that they’re being seduced or flirted with if someone is actually kissing them.”

Happy Valentine’s Day to all the writers out there, I hope you get invited to a seduction 😉

❤ ❤ DragonBeck

Happy Valentine’s Day 2017

On this Valentine’s Day, I hope anyone who has found their soul mate and is madly in love together has a wonderful day celebrating each other and your mutual good fortune.

I hope those who are in love but are afraid to show it find some courage to do something about it, even if it’s just to send an anonymous card to the person of your dreams. Who knows, some magic just might bloom. Stranger things have happened.

I hope anyone who is single and loving it has a fantastic day pretty much just like any other day of the week or year; live it up and be awesome!

I hope anyone who is single and wishes they weren’t knows it’s alright to buy yourself flowers and chocolate, and treat yourself to another viewing of Pride and Prejudice.

For those who can’t be in love right now because it hurts too much, I can only offer the empathy of one of my favorite quotes from Neil Gaiman: “Have you even been in love? Horrible, isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up this whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They don’t ask for it. They do something dumb one day like kiss you, or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so a simple phrase like ‘maybe we should just be friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”

I hope anyone who is in love with love revels in the red heart balloons, and the sappy memes, and all the sweet, gooey glory that is Valentine’s Day.

To those who despise everything about February 14th, whether it’s because you disagree with the corporate commercialization of love and romance, or because you can’t stand all the mushy sentimentality, or any other reason, I don’t know why you’re reading this – go order pizza and binge watch your favorite guilty pleasure TV show, or go rock-climbing, or something.

And finally to anyone who doesn’t like any of the above completely arbitrary and subjective classifications and friendly well-wishes that go with them – Happy Valentine’s Day anyway!

❤ DragonBeck XOXO